For months now, we've been hearing about the bridging effect between e-cigarettes and tobacco among teens. To learn more about the relationship our children can have with the e-cigarette, John Rosemonda family psychologist responds to parents and provides expert advice.
John Rosemond responded to a parent question as a family psychologist: " I found an electronic cigarette hidden in my son's room of 13 years old and I'm a bit lost when to how to react. He is very suggestible and wants to look "cool" to fit with other kids. Any help would be appreciated. «
John Rosemond's analysis : Regardless of my answer, this is one of those occasional questions that will get me to have a group of people looking for my house with pitchforks and torches.
In any case at the risk of being jostled, I will share some objective facts, starting with the many surrounding speculations. Currently, science has not yet found a specific health risk from using e-cigarettes. The other fact is the nicotine addiction. . There is no doubt that some people are convinced that nicotine causes various cancers, including lung cancer, but again, and it is a fact that smoking is bad because tars present become carcinogenic when there is combustion and inhalation. The Nicotine alone does not cause lung cancer.
Do not doubt, nicotine is an addictive drug (although the strength of its addictive effect varies from person to person). However, if tobacco is eliminated from the equation, nicotine addiction can not reliably be associated with a specific risk to health or behavior.
As a group, nicotine "addicts" are not known for stealing from shopkeepers or for stealing old women's handbags in order to obtain a dose. There are no murders associated with nicotine addiction nor does it exist South American cartel of nicotine. In the end, nicotine remains a relatively benign addiction. However, and it is important to say, no addiction is a good thing, and there is a risk of overdose with nicotine.
We can also talk about studies that found that nicotine had positive effects on cognitive functioning and appeared to be a kind of "vitamin for the brain". For example, the use of nicotine is associated with lower rates of Alzheimer's disease, Parkinson's disease and other forms of neurological degeneration.
In the immediate future, the most worrying thing about the e-cigarette is the risk of explosion. As with everything, the more cheap your e-cigarette is, the more likely it will be to malfunction. Needless to say, in the case of your son is probably talking about an inexpensive model.
On the other hand, let me be clear, I am not rejecting your concerns. I'm just saying that if you do everything you can to prevent your son from being vaping and he is determined to get around your ban, the world will not end. After all, he may have been trained by a group to drink alcohol, smoke marijuana or use other illicit or even illegal drugs. If you do not see an alarming change in your mood or behavior, it's that he's not likely to consume anything other than nicotine e-liquid.
When it comes to adolescents, parents must accept that the limit of their influence and trust has diminished and that the discipline implemented until then could effectively deter anti-social and self-destructive behavior. Some experimentation is likely during the teenage years especially with boys. It should be known thatIn many, if not most cases, experimentation does not go beyond that.
But above all, if you want to address this issue, do it without passion. You can and should confiscate your son's e-cigarette by letting him know that until one is certain of the safety of the vape, you would be very irresponsible to let him do it. Let him know that there will be consequences if you find a new e-cigarette in his possession. Also try to find out if the group that initiated it is experimenting with riskier things than the vape. If this is the case, then you will have to limit all contact with them, knowing that the attempt to ban teenage relationships has its own risks.
As your question illustrates, sometimes the only thing a parent can do to a problem is to stay calm and continue to be "friendly," loving and always approachable.